Identify Yourself, an article by Krystal South, delves into the idea of how the internet plays a strong role on personal identity. South follows her personal interaction with the internet, showing how she grew to become dependent on the constant feedback and connection to it. As a generation, the majority of us are deeply intertwined in the internet, constantly searching for more information, new ways to interact with others, and new ways to express ourselves.
The section of her article that I found the most engaging was "To Chat," which focuses on how text chat has changed how we think and communicate with others. We tend to think in ways that we can relate to plain text, wondering how we can make our thoughts a single Facebook status or Tweet. Online text chats allow us to not only communicate with people that we would not ordinarily talk to in person but also allow us to real life friends in other ways. Facebook allows me to "talk" to high school friends that have moved hours away to go to college and still feel somewhat connected to their lives and also provides me with a new way to communicate with people that I am physically close to, ranging from normal text to the new Pusheen cats in the chat box.
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Chat also allows us to maintain a control over the conversation that we cannot have in real life. If you have a conversation with someone in person and they make you upset or angry, they have the opportunity to notice this through your facial features, vocal tones, body language, language delivery, and other physical features. In an online text chat, emotions are indiscernible, and a single sentence could be interpreted a variety of ways. This can be both positive and negative to relating to other people, as if you're trying to remain calm, you don't have to reveal emotions that you think will jeopardize the conversation or make your relationship with someone awkward. There have been several conversations that I have had over text chat because I knew if I said it any other way I would become too emotional and might strain the friendship I had with the person. Yet at the same time, if you cannot understand someone's emotions, then it can be hard to connect to them, creating an emotional divide between the two of you. Misunderstandings can also arise, as you might be perfectly calm, yet the other person reads your tone as angry and responds in what they see is appropriate to the situation. Pure lines of text are highly influenced by the reader's personal emotion and sometimes you can read the same conversation in several different tones purely based on your emotion. Long distance friendships put a strong emphasis on text chats, as they are much easier than phone calls and video chats, which are slightly more connecting than pure words. Yet at the same time, chat can leave a person wanting, as these emotional interpretations are tiring and in many ways lesser to hearing the person's voice. Sometimes though, that desire for control over the conversation, such as the ability to choose your words beforehand and reserving your emotion for only when you want it to obviously show, can make a text chat seem much easier and allow you to connect with someone when otherwise you have no courage to speak with them. Finding the confidence to flirt may be easier in Facebook chat than in person, but it may also be more indirect and less personal. The multitasking of the internet allows us to send many people a message at the same time or be reporting the whole conversation to a third party without the other person realizing, something that is difficult to do in face-to-face conversations, so sometimes text chat can seem highly impersonal.
Online chat seems to be a compromise between convenience and communication. Chat allows a person to connect to many people over the world, yet it is difficult to connect to someone in exactly the same way that you would in person. My mother, who grew up before these emotionless ways of communicating with others, will be the first person to tell me that important conversations should be face-to-face or at the very least over the phone. Yet in many situations it simply seems easier to send a message via text or chat, most likely a reflection of our current absorption into internet culture.